I am wondering why it is so hard for women to put themselves first. Does anybody have any thoughts on this? Do we just have the instincts to put everybody before our self? Are we just born this way?
Before I met my husband I loved working out. And I'm not sure what happened along the way, but my feeling is that I got lost. It's not that I lost my love for working out, but I can only assume that I found a love for other things. My husband is a CPA and tax season at our house can be very lonely. I would have all of this extra time, yet I would sit at home pining for him. Does anybody see something wrong with this picture? I've always prided myself on the fact that I was not one of "those" women who lost themselves in their boyfriend/husband. Needless to say, I think I only got more lost when I got married.
My husband and I have had numerous conversations on why I wasn't working out as much. And the dagger to the heart..."that was one of the reasons I feel in love with you" Now, I think we all know that you can't really change until you want to. Then one day when I was driving to work I thought to myself "why am I not putting myself first?" I don't acknowledge that it was a profound thought, but that same thought did stick with me for the remainder of the day.
The last few weeks I think I've found my mojo again. I've been going to exercise classes at my gym. These classes have been intense and exhilarating! Most importantly I'm not worrying about what my husband will have for dinner or if our dog Bella is in her kennel for too long. It's more like a fleeting thought because I realized that I don't have to carry this burden seven days out of the week. I think that working on myself has made me a better partner (or at least I'd like to think so).
I've always heard that women should put themselves first, then their husband and followed by their children. Logically this makes perfect sense, but why don't we do it? If we did this would we be physically and mentally healthier? Would our divorce rate decrease and would there be less infidelity?
I don't have an answers on this topic since I'm still trying to figure it for myself. Well, who ever said that self discovery happens overnight? Either way, it's food for thought!
~~~~ and on a side note, I made an impulse purchase and bought a kitten when I was in Madison this week. I was a little nervous that my husband would be surprised, but not in the good way. The good news is that he loves the kitten. We've named him Albert but he goes by Squirt. The rest of the family is still adapting. I've got a dog that scared of a 3lb kitty and two other cats that aren't feeling the vibe yet. Pictures to follow soon!
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
It's Getting on My Nerves!
What happens when multiple things start getting on your nerves? Well, if you're like me then you decide to make a list of them and post them on your blog! Here it goes:
1) Summer television sucks! In fact it sucks so much that I'm beginning to think my husband is right and we should cancel cable. There are only about three shows I might want to watch every week and yet somehow I miss them.
2) How does McDonald's think it's ok to charge $1 for a medium "hot" black coffee and charge me $2.09 for a medium "iced" black coffee. Really, $1.09 for ice?
3) What is "liquid sugar" and why is McDonald's adding this to my coffee without asking me? Do they know that they've increased the caloric intake on my iced coffee from 5 calories to 280 calories. This is not ok!
4) My gym needs to have more classes for people who work a normal 8-5 job. I find it unacceptable that there are only 2-3 classes offered at night for the entire week. I can barely drag my butt out of bed a 6 am to go to work, therefore, there is no way I'll be able to make it to the gym for a 5:30 am class.
5) My car is an enormous piece of junk and I'm not ready to purchase a new one. My "check engine" light has been on for over a year, my passenger side window won't roll down, my driver side window won't roll down, it goes through gas like a sieve and sometimes it idles a little to low for my comfort.
6) I think this heat is very draining. As much as I love summer, I don't like this type of oppressive heat. I hate coming home a night to a dark house because all of curtains are shut. I also have a very crabby dog that hasn't gone for a walk in several days. Any day now she'll probably start gnawing at the furniture to prove to me how bored she is!
I think that's about it. Well, there probably is more but I'm not sure they are appropriate for a public website. I'm in need of some cooler temperatures, a long walk with Bella and a night out with my husband. I'm not fussy, I'll take two out three!
1) Summer television sucks! In fact it sucks so much that I'm beginning to think my husband is right and we should cancel cable. There are only about three shows I might want to watch every week and yet somehow I miss them.
2) How does McDonald's think it's ok to charge $1 for a medium "hot" black coffee and charge me $2.09 for a medium "iced" black coffee. Really, $1.09 for ice?
3) What is "liquid sugar" and why is McDonald's adding this to my coffee without asking me? Do they know that they've increased the caloric intake on my iced coffee from 5 calories to 280 calories. This is not ok!
4) My gym needs to have more classes for people who work a normal 8-5 job. I find it unacceptable that there are only 2-3 classes offered at night for the entire week. I can barely drag my butt out of bed a 6 am to go to work, therefore, there is no way I'll be able to make it to the gym for a 5:30 am class.
5) My car is an enormous piece of junk and I'm not ready to purchase a new one. My "check engine" light has been on for over a year, my passenger side window won't roll down, my driver side window won't roll down, it goes through gas like a sieve and sometimes it idles a little to low for my comfort.
6) I think this heat is very draining. As much as I love summer, I don't like this type of oppressive heat. I hate coming home a night to a dark house because all of curtains are shut. I also have a very crabby dog that hasn't gone for a walk in several days. Any day now she'll probably start gnawing at the furniture to prove to me how bored she is!
I think that's about it. Well, there probably is more but I'm not sure they are appropriate for a public website. I'm in need of some cooler temperatures, a long walk with Bella and a night out with my husband. I'm not fussy, I'll take two out three!
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Happy Birthday...or Not?
Today is my birthday and I'm turning a whopping 31 years old today! In recent years I've been known to get really bummed out about my birthday and even get down right crabby. Here are my reasons, and hopefully you'll understand where I am coming from.
I don't have a huge issue with getting old; however, I have a major issue with people around me getting older. It seems like just the other day that my dad turned 40 and we had a birthday party for him. Now he's on the verge of 60...and retirement! How did my 20's fly by so quickly? It seems like just a few short months ago I was in college and studying was my biggest priority (wow, times have sure changed). How is it even possible that I taught Sunday school to bunch of young third graders who are now in college? It's hard to handle that not only are you getting older, but that the people you really care about are getting older as well. I've seen other people my age start to deal with the failing health of their parents and that starts to hit a little to close to home.
I am way too analytical about my life. When I reach my birthday I question most things I've done, said or actions I've taken. Have I been nice enough? Have I spoken my opinion enough? Was I social enough? Am I happy at my job? Am I making enough money? Should I have more money? Did I sell myself short in any areas? Am I eating healthy enough? Should I be exercising more (yes)? Have I worked at my relationship with my husband sufficiently? Why am I entering into my early 30's with no children? Do I even want children? Is it ok not to want children?
I'm sure questions like that are enough to drive any sane person crazy! I think it becomes more difficult when you compare yourself to others. I know that I should not compare myself to others...but how many people actually do that?
Here's my plan for age 31: I am going to stop "shoulding" myself and just start doing things that I want to do (well, within reason). I'm also going to continue to work on those relationships with people that are the most important to me. I'm horrible at staying in contact with others, but I vow to make a serious improvement this year.
In the end, not everything about birthdays are horrible. This morning I came into the office and had my favorite Starbucks drink waiting for me as well as a triple chocolate donut from a fabulous local bakery. Tonight I plan to not make dinner and ask my husband where he's taking me for my birthday! And then, before the day is done I'll have a gigantic slice of birthday cake!
Yes, it will be a happy birthday!
I don't have a huge issue with getting old; however, I have a major issue with people around me getting older. It seems like just the other day that my dad turned 40 and we had a birthday party for him. Now he's on the verge of 60...and retirement! How did my 20's fly by so quickly? It seems like just a few short months ago I was in college and studying was my biggest priority (wow, times have sure changed). How is it even possible that I taught Sunday school to bunch of young third graders who are now in college? It's hard to handle that not only are you getting older, but that the people you really care about are getting older as well. I've seen other people my age start to deal with the failing health of their parents and that starts to hit a little to close to home.
I am way too analytical about my life. When I reach my birthday I question most things I've done, said or actions I've taken. Have I been nice enough? Have I spoken my opinion enough? Was I social enough? Am I happy at my job? Am I making enough money? Should I have more money? Did I sell myself short in any areas? Am I eating healthy enough? Should I be exercising more (yes)? Have I worked at my relationship with my husband sufficiently? Why am I entering into my early 30's with no children? Do I even want children? Is it ok not to want children?
I'm sure questions like that are enough to drive any sane person crazy! I think it becomes more difficult when you compare yourself to others. I know that I should not compare myself to others...but how many people actually do that?
Here's my plan for age 31: I am going to stop "shoulding" myself and just start doing things that I want to do (well, within reason). I'm also going to continue to work on those relationships with people that are the most important to me. I'm horrible at staying in contact with others, but I vow to make a serious improvement this year.
In the end, not everything about birthdays are horrible. This morning I came into the office and had my favorite Starbucks drink waiting for me as well as a triple chocolate donut from a fabulous local bakery. Tonight I plan to not make dinner and ask my husband where he's taking me for my birthday! And then, before the day is done I'll have a gigantic slice of birthday cake!
Yes, it will be a happy birthday!
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